About Me
“I’ve always been fascinated by why people lose themselves and what it takes to find their way back.”
Most people who find their way here have been carrying something for a long time – a pattern they can’t shake, a relationship that keeps going wrong, a sense that something’s missing but they can’t name it. If that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
My path into this work wasn’t a straight line. It started long before any formal training in my own experience of falling apart and piecing myself back together. Business failure, near-bankruptcy, depression, relationship breakdowns, losing people I loved. I’ve been through it, not read about it.
That’s shaped everything about how I work. I know what it’s like to sit across from someone and not be able to say what’s really going on. I know what it’s like to need help and not reach for it.
And I know how much can shift when you finally do.
“There is nothing better for developing the self than time on the planet and learning from failures as much as successes.”
Over the years I’ve trained in yoga, shiatsu, and counselling, and worked across intimacy, sexuality, and addiction. I’ve done years of my own personal therapy, 12-step work, and explored mindfulness, spirituality, and menswork. My professional training and my lived experience have grown up alongside each other and I believe that makes a difference to my work.
I’ve watched people transform their lives through committing to a period of counselling. Not just their sense of themselves, but their relationships and the way they move through the world. That never gets old.
Training & Professional Background
– Four-year training in Integrated Humanistic Therapy
– Specialist work in intimacy, sexuality, and addiction
– Training in yoga and shiatsu
– Ongoing personal therapy, 12-step, mindfulness and menswork
– Working under BACP ethics with regular supervision
– Continuing professional development, which keeps this work evolving
Sessions take a holistic approach. Talking and listening are at the heart of it, but we can also draw on different frameworks and modalities depending on what you’re bringing. I take a genuinely curious approach, not a cookie-cutter one.
I welcome people from all backgrounds – different genders, races, sexualities, and neurotypes. You might feel challenged at times. You will always feel heard.
If something here resonates, I’d be glad to have a conversation. No pressure – just a chance to see if we’re the right fit.
I welcome people from all walks of life. Whatever you’re carrying, you don’t have to carry it alone.
Through me having the space to share my story, and the story of J, I feel that I am well on my way to healing. I now accept that I will always miss him and need him, but, thanks to Selwyn, I have found the joy in remembering and talking about him.
I feel closer to him than ever since his passing, and that, I feel, is due to Selwyn’s patience, his attentive listening, his ability to make me feel at ease and safe to talk about my feelings, and his genuine interest in me and our story.
